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Phoebe Bridgers and Bo Burnham have kept their relationship largely under the radar since romance rumors first sparked in late 2022.
Dating speculation surrounding the singer and comedian began not long after Bridgers’s reported
split from Paul Mescal. Nearly four years later, the pair have still never officially confirmed their relationship, though they’ve been spotted together on several occasions—from dinner dates to the Grammys to Taylor Swift’s Eras Tour.
A video posted by Keith Urban from the Eras Tour appeared to accidentally capture Bridgers and Burnham getting cozy in the background, offering the clearest confirmation of the romance. And while Bridgers has seemingly dropped a few lyrical hints about their relationship, her new album, Lost Weekend, may deliver the most direct nod yet: a love song titled “Bobby,” which fans believe is about Burnham.
Ahead, everything we know about Bridgers and Burnham’s relationship.
Phoebe and Bo perform a song together.
August 5, 2021
Bridgers and Burnham perform his song “That Funny Feeling” together during Pete Holmes’s “Living at Largo” show in Los Angeles. The intimate concert is a phone-free event, but according to
Variety, Bridgers brings Burnham onstage to play the keyboard and add background vocals while she sings.
Bridgers introduces the song to the crowd, saying, “I’m gonna play a song I wish I wrote, I know I love something when it fills me with rage.”
She later releases an official cover of the song.
Phoebe hints at her split from Paul Mescal in a song with SZA.
December 2022
Rumors of Bridgers’s split from Paul Mescal begin after the singer is featured on SZA’s new song “Ghost in the Machine.” Bridgers confirms to
NMEthat she wrote the lyrics to her verse just weeks before the song’s December release, fueling speculation that she and Mescal have called it quits.
The song references a relationship coming undone, with lyrics in Bridgers’s new verse including, “You said all of my friends are on my payroll/ You’re not wrong, you’re an asshole” and “Screaming at you in the Ludlow/I was yours for free.”
Phoebe and Bo spark dating rumors.
December 2022
Speculation that Bridgers and Mescal split continues, especially as the singer is spotted out with Bo Burnham on several occasions in Los Angeles. Gossip site
DeuxMoiposts sightings of the two reportedly “cuddling” and kissing in various dive bars.
Then, on December 12, The 1975 singer Matt Healy posts a since-deleted Instagram photo of him and Bridgers kissing as Burnham stands behind them with his hands on both of their shoulders. Healy captions the post, “Gay Poets Society.”
One week later,
Jezebelreports that Bridgers and Burnham attended a comedy show together in New York City.
They’re seen at the airport together.
January 2023
Bridgers is spotted walking through LAX with Burnham after announcing the death of her father.
In a later interview with
Them, the singer calls out fans for “bullying” her while she travels to her father’s funeral. Bridgers doesn’t go into detail about the bullying, but it comes during a period when fans are upset about her split from Mescal.
“I’m coming from a place of literally—I’m feeling it in my body as I’m saying, but... people with my picture as their Twitter picture, who claim to like my music, fu***ng bullied me at the airport on the way to my father’s funeral this year,” she says in the interview.
They attend Taylor Swift’s Eras Tour together.
May 2023
Bridgers and Burnham attend Taylor Swift’s Eras Tour together in Philadelphia. Singer Keith Urban posts a video of himself and then-wife Nicole Kidman at the concert, which accidentally captures Bridgers and Burnham getting cozy in the background of the same VIP tent.
Fans take this as confirmation that the two are indeed dating.
Urban later apologizes to Bridgers during an interview with
Entertainment Tonight,saying he didn’t realize his video captured the couple in the back. “Phoebe, I’m so sorry,” the country singer says. “It felt very awkward; I felt bad. I was just digging on the concert! You never know what's gonna happen.”
Phoebe maybe soft-launches the relationship on Instagram.
August 2023
Bridgers posts a black-and-white photo of her sitting on a piano bench with her arm around a man to her Instagram Story. The snap is taken from behind, so it’s not clear who the mystery man is, but fans speculate that it’s Burnham.
They’re spotted holding hands in New York.
November 11, 2023
Bridgers and Burnham are photographed holding hands as they attend the Saturday Night Live after-party together in New York City, after Bridgers’s band, boygenius, performs as the show’s musical guest.
Bridgers wears a sheer black dress with a long jacket and velvet heels, while Burnham is cool in a black jacket, gray pants, and sneakers.
Bo attends the Grammys with Phoebe.
February 4, 2024
Burnham supports Bridgers at the 2024 Grammy Awards. Although they don’t walk the red carpet together, they are photographed inside the event alongside Taylor Swift and Bridgers’a fellow boygenius members, Lucy Dacus and Julien Baker.
They share a kiss at Disneyland.
August 2024
Bridgers and Burnham are seen showing a kiss and an embrace during a Disneyland outing, in photos published by the
Daily Mail.
Phoebe seemingly writes about their romance in a new song titled “Bobby.”
August 14, 2026
Bridgers releases her new solo album, Lost Weekend, which seemingly includes lyrical references to her reported relationship with Burnham.
Fans believe one track in particular, “Bobby,” is about Burnham, whose real name is Robert. The romantic love song explores falling in love and a relationship that feels like it could last forever. “Bobby, this could be the end of wanting,” Bridgers sings in the chorus.
Lyrics include:
“Now I sleep in your shirts and you live in my house / You sing in the shower, I talk to myself / We’ve got stars on the ceiling and clothes on the floor / And a thing in a box I don’t touch anymore.”
Another line features the lyrics, “So you followed me home, like you’d done it before /And you had to bend over to get through the door.” (This seems to be a nod to Burnham’s 6-foot-5 height.)
